2 thoughts on “One month” Jared July 10, 2008 at 5:10 pm “Navigating the families and trying to make everyone happy has been a stress we didn’t anticipate.” Sadly, this likely won’t stop. Giving advice is a jerky thing to do, but I’m gonna give it anyway: be selfish. I wouldn’t normally advocate selfishness, but when it comes to the sanity and peace of your family, be selfish. Spend time with who you want, when you want. Protect Michelle’s peace, protect Sebastian’s peace. And let everyone else get mad if they have to. Their feelings are their responsibilities, not yours, especially when it comes to your family. Don’t know if that helps. Just been there, done that, wanted to hang myself with the T-shirt, so I figured, if your navigation is anyways close to how ours has been, I’d try to save you years I can’t get back. mk burt July 12, 2008 at 7:40 am That Jared guy is smart! And Right! You have to have the best interests of YOUR family in heart & hand. I have a bi-polar mother-in-law that just met Dorothy this past year, due to our ‘best interests’. Don’t think you’re being ‘mean’ or ‘selfish’ – protect your baby & family from whatever you may think will or could harm them, not just physically, but emotionally as well. You guys can call me anytime, I could tell you some stories!! Keep up the good work, and don’t second guess your decisions. That’s why they’re YOUR decisions & not someone elses’. :-) Leave a Reply Cancel reply This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.